Our Hotwives

Libertine_Lark wrote: ↑

Tue Feb 11, 2025 6:29 am

Have any of the hotwives here ever fantasized about working as an elite (high-end) escort for an evening, where the husband sets up the encounter as if he were an escort agency?

To be clear, I’m not talking about actually working as an escort but merely role-playing this with a witting man (e.g., handsome traveling businessman staying at an expensive hotel).

Welcome comments.

LL

This hasn't been a fantasy of mine, but I can see the appeal of being so desired that someone would pay good money to spend time with me. If the role play focused on that aspect and didn't feel like I was being sold by one man to do the bidding of another, I could possibly get behind it.

hotrocket wrote: ↑

Sun Feb 23, 2025 1:24 am

hi all, my question is: do any of you have fun with and enjoy bulls that are clearly less attractive than yiur husband and with a smaller penis? if so what is it that attracted yiu to them to make you jave sex with them, and what do you enjoy about them?

context: my wife and i often sortof role play hotwifing during our sexy times with theoretical hot big dicked men, but i am not sure how likely she would want to ever do it, or enjoy it in real life. i already have a very large penis which can often cause difficulties and it wouldnt be easy finding someone bigger in real life. i am also very attractive and she very rarely finds other men attractive, so it woild be very difficult to find a guy hotter than me, especially thatis willing to have sex with her. (and pkease dont question this difficulty,i live in a small area within a small population large land mass island country).

My husband is extremely attractive and has been very blessed in the length and girth department as far as penises are concerned. For me, the lifestyle isn't about trying to find "better". It is about making new connections and having new and different experiences with other men. It isn't a comparison thing or trying to fill some sort of gap that my husband can't satisfy. I like the excitement that comes from being with someone who isn't my husband, I like the butterfly feelings of having a crush on someone, and the giddiness when we flirt. I enjoy the naughtiness of sexy lingerie, daytime hotel dates, or semi-public sex in cars and parks. I also like the deep and true connections that I've built with a long-term boyfriend.

If your wife is interested in this lifestyle, it is important that you let her figure out what it is that she would want to get out of it. Let her find the partners that she feels chemistry with regardless of what they look like, how old they are, or how big their penis is. I think you'd be surprised who she chooses and what she likes about it.

Justaregularguy wrote: ↑

Tue Mar 04, 2025 3:23 pm

So my wife is not yet a hotwife but a few months ago after a session she asked me if she was on a work trip and saw and guy she liked and had the opportunity would I be angry with her for not discussing it first… I said no I wouldn’t but what’s everybody’s opinion on this… firstly is it a confession do you think or is it a sign that she’s really considering hotwifing?

Do you trust your wife? Trust and communication are going to be key to having success in this lifestyle. If you trust her, then accept the fact that she was trying to figure out exactly what the terms were for being a hot wife within your specific relationship. She was checking to see if you want to be involved in selecting the guy or approving him, if she has cart blanche to act when the mood strikes, or if it should be pre-arranged first. Keep having these conversations and be honest with her in your answers. Feel free to ask questions back about how she would feel if you DID want to know in advance, or if you didn't. Ask if she'd want you to be there, or if she'd rather play alone. Whatever your questions are, ask them of her. I think that's the only way that ethical nonmonogamy can move forward and work successfully.

Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑

Fri Mar 07, 2025 5:35 am

Justaregularguy wrote: ↑

Tue Mar 04, 2025 3:23 pm

So my wife is not yet a hotwife but a few months ago after a session she asked me if she was on a work trip and saw and guy she liked and had the opportunity would I be angry with her for not discussing it first… I said no I wouldn’t but what’s everybody’s opinion on this… firstly is it a confession do you think or is it a sign that she’s really considering hotwifing?

Do you trust your wife? Trust and communication are going to be key to having success in this lifestyle. If you trust her, then accept the fact that she was trying to figure out exactly what the terms were for being a hot wife within your specific relationship. She was checking to see if you want to be involved in selecting the guy or approving him, if she has cart blanche to act when the mood strikes, or if it should be pre-arranged first. Keep having these conversations and be honest with her in your answers. Feel free to ask questions back about how she would feel if you DID want to know in advance, or if you didn't. Ask if she'd want you to be there, or if she'd rather play alone. Whatever your questions are, ask them of her. I think that's the only way that ethical nonmonogamy can move forward and work successfully.

Oh yes I trust her, I thought the same that she was trying to figure out boundaries, we’ve been very open with each other about this since we started talking about it

Hi HWs,

Firstly apologies if you have answered questions like this before but in my look through the thread I could not quite find what I wanted. My wife and I are at the precipice of this lifestyle - you can see my thread on the cuckold forum. I and we are caught up in the worry about where it will lead but some how I can’t seem to get off this path.

My big questions are:
1) from what my wife has said one of the biggest fears of hers is how she might get over her internalised view of sex through a Catholic lens. She said “I am hardly able to be fully comfortable with you after 24 years never mind a new guy”. I am the only person she has slept with in her life. Can any of you ladies that traveled this path relate and have you any advice to offer?
2) I am really worried about her forming a deep emotional connection with someone else. We have had the most wonderful life together and she and I both are afraid where this will lead. Sex for her would not be enjoyable without some connection. Has this lifestyle negatively affect your bond with your husband? Did you lose anything from before?
3) very simple - did you lose respect for your partner for having this desire.

I think my wife sees this kink as an outcome of trauma I have suffered in the past and she is worried that I am actually sub consciously pressing a self destruct button. I have no performance, size or other limitations and we have a great sex life. She may be right but the underlying physical feelings for me are just so strong and since I have started to share and accept them I feel a lot more present, relaxed and happy.
This is a huge step for us so all advice and guidance is very welcome

For those ladies that are in more of a cuckold relationship.
Can you recall the steps or the particular point in time when you felt cucking your husband was the way moving forward?
I imagine most women got started by their s/o desire to be cucked so was it after a couple times doing it, it became something you grew into or was it a perticular session or actions that flipped a light on?

And, if you could go back to the very start, is there anything you would do diferently?

For the HWs

What are some book recommendations you have to ease my wife into the idea of hotwife / vixen lifestyle. She is currently reading all the latest top rated novels and has admitted that some have sex related scenarios which are “interesting” som I want a few that are more direct and to the point for her to try.